Our lives are defined by our decisions.
When you think about it, your entire life can be boiled down to one life-changing decision. It can be determined by the school you chose to go to or what you decided to major in. It can take an entirely different path based on the job you accepted post grad. Your world can be flipped upside down by the decision to relocate based on a relationship. Each decision we make leads us somewhere new and helps define where we’re at in our lives.
The decisions we make and the paths we choose to pursue are entirely our own. However, there will always be someone or something in the back of our mind questioning that decision. Is this the right move? What will my parents think of this? Should I have ordered a salad instead of a Philly Cheesesteak?
Every day we make decisions and every day we are one step closer to where we want to be.
But what if where we want to be isn’t exactly where everyone else thinks you should be? That was a mouthful. But think about it. There are always going to be people in your life that think they know what’s best for you. People who believe they have it figured out. And most of the time they do have your best interest at heart, but at the end of the day it’s not their decision. It’s yours.
I am lucky, in that I know my family will support me in whatever decisions I make (even though 9 times out of 10 they don’t understand them). However, I deal with the constant internal struggle to make decisions based on what I feel is right and what I know my family thinks is right. Although I may turn down a job offer in the pursuit of finding the right fit, in the back of my mind I will always be questioning if I’m letting my parents down. On the hunt to being independent and figuring out who I am, I have not chased ~romantic~ relationships (in fact, I’ve never had one). I have selfishly wanted to be single in order to be able to pick up and leave whenever the opportunity arises. I’ll always wonder if this is a decision that keeps my mom up at night.
The point of this is, each and every one of us has different reasons for making the decisions we do.
And each and every one of us has family, friends, peers, pets, and acquaintances who these decisions advertently or inadvertently affect. We will always question our decisions. That’s never going to change. But, remember that the decisions that you make are just that. Yours. You are the only one who has to live with them and you are the only one who really needs to understand them.
So accept that job. Go on that trip. Be single. Don’t be single. Just make a decision and trust that you’re making the right one. Because 9 times out of 10, you are.