Opinion, Travel

It’s Okay to Be a Little Lost

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “not all those who wander are lost”. 

It has been shared by travelers all over the world for many years.  I often come across this quote and it wasn’t until about the thousandth time seeing it that I realized: some of us are lostSome who travel, or wander, are indeed, feeling lost.  And that’s just fine.

About a year ago, I was quickly approaching graduation and I was beyond lost. 

I had absolutely no clue what I wanted to do.  I had no job.  No job prospects.  No boyfriend.  And no idea where my life was going.  I had friends landing their dream jobs.  I knew people getting engaged and married.  A lot of my friends were moving to new cities.  And I seemed to be standing still with no idea which way to go.  I was lost.  Nothing, besides my family, was holding me back (which sounds cool, but is actually terrifying).  So I chose to move abroad to teach English and it has been, without a doubt, the best decision I have ever made.

A year later and, honestly, I am still feeling lost.  I still don’t really know what I want to do with my life.  I’m not sure where I’ll be in a few months.  And I still don’t have a boyfriend (shocker).  But I have learned more about myself in the last 6 months than I think I did all of college.  I’ve learned what I don’t want to do.  I know where I don’t want my life to go.  And I know that I am that much closer to figuring out what path I want to take.

If you’re anything like me, the future stresses you out. 

The not knowing.  The possibility of failing.  All of it.  I think we put so much pressure on ourselves to make a plan, that we sometimes forget that a perfect plan has already been made.  Your plan, my plan, was all written long ago.  Probably before you or me even existed.  He had a plan for us.  He still does, and He always will.  So stop worrying about being lost.  Stop worrying about your next destination.  Stop worrying about your next job or your next relationship or your next promotion.  Because those things have already been written by the Lord, Jesus Christ.

This post isn’t intended to imply that traveling is going to magically solve all of your problems or give you all of the answers you have been looking for (because, spoiler alert: it won’t).  It’s not intended to encourage you to sit back and wait for God’s plan to just happen to you (because, spoiler alert: that doesn’t work either).  What I’m trying to say is that, if you are lost, it’s okay.  If you don’t know what you want to do yet, it’s okay.  If you’re 23 years single, it’s okay (maybe that one is just meant to make me feel better, idk though).  Some of us have it all figured out, and some of us are feeling lost.  If you are in the latter category, I’m here to tell you that you’ll get there.  Actually, ­we’ll get there.

~Tar

60 thoughts on “It’s Okay to Be a Little Lost

  1. Are you ever going to post something where I don’t cry tears of joy? You my daughter are not lost, you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Love you and sending you a big hug all the way from the States.❤️

  2. Tarah Bear – when I was your age we didn’t have the same apportunities that you dear one have today. I am so happy that you do, so enjoy this time in your life and someday you will be able to share these precious moments with your children. Each step is planned for you and together with your Lord Jesus guiding you, you will find your way. Be confidant you are never alone and certainly not lost. 😊 You are on a journey and what a lovely journey. Love you so much and sure do miss a hug from you 😥 Tata

  3. Tarah, you’re the bomb! I hope all four of my kids are as lost as you. 😉 Leaving everything behind; the comfort and safety of your lovely home; the conveniences of the American culture to fly across the sea to be selfless is an adventure few would pursue. You are BOLD, BRAVE, STRONG & BEAUTIFUL….just like your mama. Ring Ching!
    XXOO Anne

  4. i agree! It’s all about the “the climb”, “the journey”. That is what makes the destination that much sweeter. Keep climbing!!!!

  5. I know what you mean – I’m almost in the same position now. And the worst thing is when you start overthinking – it makes you feel depressed and completely lost. To stop it and find some inspiration we need something that stimulates us and reminds that we are lucky after all 🙂 We can get a job, get a mortgage etc… Be a perfect pawn in the game. But sometimes it’s good to leave the system, let go and live your life the way you want – even for a while. I love traveling – and when you travel, you can be “lost” in the literal sense of this word – the adventure helps clear the mind and find new perspective. I love to venture into the unknown. The less known a country is – the better it is for me 🙂

    1. I’ve definitely been guilty of overthinking things, as well and it’s never a good idea! We are lucky to be able to travel the way we do, enjoy being lost and finding the hidden countries you’re searching for!

  6. I am almost 30 and I don’t have a boyfriend… I must be really lost! 🙂 But seriously taking, I think that we build out own destiny. Some chose to merry, some chose to have families, I chose to travel and be free. I still don’t know what I am going to do with my life yet but hey… as you say it… it’s okay! This makes us who we are, unique!

  7. Maybe you feel lost. But until you discover what’s the God’s plan for you, you could always travel and have fun. Happy travels!

  8. haha your mom is cute. Sounds about right though. I think people think you HAVE to have things sorted out by a certain age. It’s frustrating with the pressure you feel sometimes but I have learned that I am the only one in control of my success and happiness so my opinion is the most important! We all WILL get there! Love it 😉

  9. You are absolutely right! 10 years ago I was in the same situation and I set off to a 1 year travel adventure. I came back and even though I still had no clue what to do wth my life, I felt way better about myself. Today I’m still a bit lost… and am still travelling the world whenever I can. I guess some things will never change… but at least I make the most of my life 🙂 Loved your post!!!

  10. You are absolutely right! 10 years ago I was in the same situation and I set off to a 1 year travel adventure. I came back and even though I still had no clue what to do wth my life, I felt way better about myself. Today I’m still a bit lost… and am still travelling the world whenever I can. I guess some things will never change… but at least I make the most of my life 🙂 Loved your post!!!

  11. You are completely right – I’m 33 and still panic endlessly about my future and where it might lead. Sometimes travel can clear your head, but sometimes it’s just another step in the road of life!

  12. You are completely right – I’m 33 and still panic endlessly about my future and where it might lead. Sometimes travel can clear your head, but sometimes it’s just another step in the road of life!

  13. Hmmm I don’t know how to say this, but when I was your age, I also have the same thoughts and questions about life. Unfortunately I don’t have any means to travel, however if you are faithful enough to wait for the right things to come then surely you’ll be blessed with what your heart desires. Like in my case, the love of my life came when I was 27 and finally I have someone to get lost with in both adventures and journey in life. I met my husband through a wrong sent text message. That was the best wrong message I’ve ever received. Hahaha story of my life.

    Just enjoy life because you’re still young, there’s a lot of good things coming your way. 🙂

  14. Hmmm I don’t know how to say this, but when I was your age, I also have the same thoughts and questions about life. Unfortunately I don’t have any means to travel, however if you are faithful enough to wait for the right things to come then surely you’ll be blessed with what your heart desires. Like in my case, the love of my life came when I was 27 and finally I have someone to get lost with in both adventures and journey in life. I met my husband through a wrong sent text message. That was the best wrong message I’ve ever received. Hahaha story of my life.

    Just enjoy life because you’re still young, there’s a lot of good things coming your way. 🙂

  15. I completely agree. When facing certain, uncertain situations in life, we do feel like we’re lost, But somehow some of the best decisions in life we make at that very point, even without realizing it! Been there, done that!! 😉

  16. I completely agree. When facing certain, uncertain situations in life, we do feel like we’re lost, But somehow some of the best decisions in life we make at that very point, even without realizing it! Been there, done that!! 😉

  17. Sometimes you don’t have to go around to find things… Things find their way back to you. Yes. I agree… It is ok to get lost once in a while. … Good luck with your life.

  18. Really needed to read something like this! I am beyond lost right now. I’ve just got home after 3 years of travelling. I never felt lost while I was on road so that quote really resonated with me, in fact I felt that I was truly living life to the fullest and it was exactly where I needed to be. I too have learned so much about myself and what I don’t want in the past few years, so why am I more lost than ever!? haha I think this article nicely leads into another quote, “you must get lost, before you can find yourself.” 🙂

  19. Really needed to read something like this! I am beyond lost right now. I’ve just got home after 3 years of travelling. I never felt lost while I was on road so that quote really resonated with me, in fact I felt that I was truly living life to the fullest and it was exactly where I needed to be. I too have learned so much about myself and what I don’t want in the past few years, so why am I more lost than ever!? haha I think this article nicely leads into another quote, “you must get lost, before you can find yourself.” 🙂

  20. I totally agree ☺ Some of the best things come from the little leaps of faith we take ! Travel can help your head to be cleared, or it can be it’s just another step in the road of life ! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  21. I totally agree ☺ Some of the best things come from the little leaps of faith we take ! Travel can help your head to be cleared, or it can be it’s just another step in the road of life ! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  22. I totally feel you! I’m a recent college grad and all these people around me seem to have things figured out and I’m still debating what I want to do. Good to know I’m not alone!

  23. I totally feel you! I’m a recent college grad and all these people around me seem to have things figured out and I’m still debating what I want to do. Good to know I’m not alone!

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